Jo

How Your Genius is a Bad Wingman

March 21, 2012

I like to observe bar behavior. I find endless amusement from the corner of whatever local I find myself. I’ve witnessed much in the way of the mating dance both towards and apart from me.

We need to stop trying to throw game, start enjoying more and be our own best selves.

My new puttypeep friend The Gutsy Geek and I have had some exchanges of late on dating advice and tips. The “neg” is a post in and of itself – I hate that behavior and will expound another time on the greater whys.

Suffice for now, “the neg” is indicative of what is wrong with having a dating or pickup agenda: it is a blatant tactic.

Tactics to connive your way into accomplishing an arbitrary agenda have no place in dating. Tactics have no place anywhere interpersonal relationships are concerned.

What is the difference then between tips and tactics? I’m glad you asked my dear reader.

Let us enter the realm of advice.

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Short Linkage (3_17_2012)

March 17, 2012

My ride this morning was long so the list this week will be short – totally makes sense. Plus my reading was light this week (so many at SXSW I think). I hope you are intentionally enjoying wherever you find yourself this weekend.

Inspiration

A reminder for the benefit of the doubt.

Tod Bol’s pop-up library idea takes off, bringing people together through book sharing (in honor of his mom with a fairly cool name). “It is all of ours.”

Creativity is a skill, not a innate gift.

Intentional Enjoyment

Speaking of creative… simple idea, good preparation, well executed and super fun: Light show and Guacamole.

Darth Vader plays the bagpipes on a unicycle. I have nothing to add. (via @pourmecoffee @marshallk)

Information:

Ruminating on digital curation, aggregation and attribution. Revisited this, to further educate this, and this.

I’m not sure I will start using the symbols but have and will continue to try to be a stickler for stating my sources or giving kudos with “via” and “HT” respectively. Your thoughts?

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Enjoying the weight of too much

March 14, 2012

(or: My Attempt to Write a Post Under 1000 words)

I will try to be short because I am short on time. I’m sure you are too.

There have been many jobs in my life where there are not enough minutes in the hours to complete what I need get done but rarely have I felt that when not working for someone else. I find myself now in that blissful state.

Yes, it is frustrating and overwhelming and fatiguing. It is also invigorating, motivating and satisfying.

I have entirely too much to do

How much better than the alternative is that? Instead of sitting around, listless and dull, we can have 20 projects to work passionately on. Ok, doing taxes maybe not so much on the gets-my-fires-stoked scale but they all can’t all be soul a’light experiences.

The project due date, the 46 open browser tabs, the writing deadline, the huddle, stack of books, chat, email, artistic project, self imposed deadline in an hour — make that 54 minutes– all of them vying for attention in the crowded stage of our minds.

The cacophony is grand.

Too many is better than not enough.

Game Changing Linkage (3_10_12)

March 10, 2012

Oh yes, I’m one of the 11-billionty people watching and electronically pinging about “Game Changer” at the same time. Yay multitasking. I must say I am enjoying it, despite David Foster Wallace’s assertion that it might be making me dumber by the second. If it was based on a book that is kinda like art though right?

Whatever category, it is not the best thing I have seen this week. For that, we turn to the linkage…

Inspiration

I aim to be this type of partner as well as find one(s) with whom to spend my time. (and “Geekprenur” is my new favorite word)

Our favorite redhead also brings warm fuzzies in uncool PJs with feet with a reminder to mean your Thank Yous

Keep Calm and Carry On: the story behind the posters featuring a blissful bookshop in England. (via @brianpicker) [Read more…]

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Respecting Our Limits

March 7, 2012

On Sunday I loaded up my bike and braced myself for a cold, wet, misery-inducing 45miles.

The “Ride for Rick” was a long-scheduled charity event for a local cyclist battling cancer. He sadly lost his fight and passed away last week. The ride and fundraiser BBQ, was more somber but still held to raise funds for his outstanding medical expenses and show southern community support for his widow and daughter.

I thought the least I could do was brave a little weather and show up.

I expected (hoped) that maybe the ride would be canceled. I was planning my gym workout as I pulled into the lot. A clutch of men in rain-gear, already astride their steeds, dispelled my dry daydreams.

Ok. Let’s do this.

After barely 5miles I wasn’t at all sure I could. I was desperately wishing that I had been one of the smarter ones that chose the shorter 26mile route, stayed warm at home, or waited til later in the day…

I wanted to be anywhere, doing anything rather than pumping with rivulets of water running down my glasses from above, getting sprayed in the face by the wheel in front of me, losing feeling in my pruning toes, muscles aching with effort after too much at the gym the night before and in all attempting to keep pace with the only others doing the long route — three much stronger men.